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Friday, July 28, 2006

This is the last day...

On Saturday, Pointless Drivel will return to normalcy. Of course, when I say "normalcy" I think we are all hip to the fact that I am speaking of lemurs, sex, juvenile behavior, sarcasm, inappropriate behavior, wooden shoes, and whatever else pops into my fevered brain.

Oh, and the occasional outburt of sensitivity and nice-guy-edness.

I cannot put into words accurately how much all your support has meant to me. All the calls, comments, and emails have made me feel very loved. I know many of you have posted about this situation, and I have read a couple of them, and they have moved me very much. Starting tomorrow I will be once again getting around to y'all and I will read the rest of them then.

You guys are awesome.

I am going to take a little time to get my bearings again. Mrs. Fab says that it is important to go through a grieving process after a job loss, just as with a death. By the way, she has been extra fabulous through all of this. She is livid at the company and 100% supportive of me. There is no one I would rather have in my corner at a time like this. Although quite a few of you rate a close second.

So I will still be grieving for a while, and feeling very hurt and confused and betrayed, but I won't air any of that here. That's not what this blog is about.

Then I will begin the process of exploring my options as far as making a living as a writer. What better time than now, eh?

At least there won't be any more traveling for a week at a time. And now I won't die next Wednesday at the Blues Brothers drive. And now I will have more time to help Mrs. Fab get ready for the bar exam in February.

So for the time being, starting Saturday it will be back to business as usual, and I will be responding to comments and visiting other blogs. Unless something changes, I won't be blogging about this mess anymore, but if you want to discuss anything with me you can always feel free to shoot me an email.

I love you guys.

(I know I am actually postdating this a tad and posting it a few hours before it is actually Friday but you know how it is. When you are unemployed time doesn't really mean anything LOL)


Blogger Teri said...

Yay *clapping vigorously*, it's good to have you somewhat back. We missed you terribly those few hours.

I totally agree with Mrs. Fab, the loss of a job is like a death, you just stand there mumbling to yourself and not able to process it all.

BTW, I'm first to comment. yeah, I'm childish at times.

10:18 PM  
Blogger Kentucky Girl said...'s true. When I got downsized, (yes, I was beyond happy, but whatever) it took me a while to feel like it was really going to be okay. And now, I'm lovin' it (well, I loved it from the beginning, but it was kinda scary at first I admit.)

I wish you the best and can't wait to hear about naked lemurs or whatever..heeh

10:29 PM  
Anonymous Monique said...

I can think of few things less glorious than death by Blues Brothers. At least you have been spared that indignity.

I admire the ability of men to note a time to the end of a Pity Party, and stick to it. I, on the other hand, have revolving Pity Parties; invitations may be distributed at any time!

When Izzy @ Pixie Dust was down in the dumps, to cheer her up, I sent her a photo of me wearing my new walking water-belt/fanny pack. Alas that probably wouldn't be proper in this case. How 'bout the link to those stories I wrote? LOL

10:30 PM  
Blogger CP said...

The grand design, Fab.
The divine plan.

It's all in store for you. You don't need anyone who doesn't appreciate your value or your worth. However, once you are done with the mourning stage, you better meet me for coffee at the "pissed off and ready to fight" stage. I took a shortcut and got there way before you. I'm sitting here patiently, drinking latte' and waiting your arrival.

Give your Mrs. a huge hug of love from me and tell her that she is AWESOME for the support and that I continue to approve of her as my temporary replacement. *wink*

Hey, she takes the BAR in February???

Hmmmmm...*wheels turning as an evil plan is forged*

Moo ha ha, says the evil princess.

Love you, Fabooski.

And, btw? Blog about whatever you want, whatever you are feeling in your heart and head. It's what you did when you were employed. It is what you should continue to do, now that you are not.

Don't play to an audience that might or might not be watching. Rather, continue to make YOURSELF happy...

that's all that matters in the long run.

In a year from now, this will all be a very old, tired memory. You'll be too busy at your book signings.

10:36 PM  
Blogger Shelli said...

I feel so inadequate because all I can say is, "I'm here". I love you, my brother, and you know I would do whatever you needed if it was humanely possible.

10:42 PM  
Blogger SupComTabz said...

awwwhh I'm sorry Mr. Fab I hadn't read through my blog roll... if there's anything I can do, let me know!

10:48 PM  
Blogger Nobody said...

The window of opportunity is always located right next to the trapdoor of disaster.

Good luck as you pass through your window, my friend.

10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Of course we are all looking forward to your lemur lovin' posts, but absolutely no one would blame you if you lapse into "pity party" mode again. This has been a big blow, and it's not likely to stop hurting overnight. However, I admire your determination, and no doubt, this will be the beginning of bigger and better things for you.

We love you, ma-a-a-an!

10:51 PM  
Blogger Geek said...

Yeah, what Tense said.

(Now this is my attempt at humor.

10:53 PM  
Blogger Big Pissy said...

Fab: I'm so glad to hear/read that you're feeling a little better. :)

I've been so concerned for you and Mrs Fab. Please tell her that I'm thinking of her too! I knew she'd be totally supportive of you~she's one cool chick!

You post about whatever you want~ we'll read it!

Oooohhhhh....just occurred to me that now that you're unemployed like me~we can hang out! ;-)

11:08 PM  
Blogger Lori said...

One door closes another opens and change is good.
I'm here for you.

11:12 PM  
Blogger Fantastagirl said...

Glad you are seeing a light... have the pity party for as long as you need - Mrs. Fab is right - it's kinda like a death.

Someone once said - Whenever one door closes, another opens. Here's to you finding another door.

11:12 PM  
Blogger Janet said...

WOAH! I DID NOT expect to read this news!

How? Why? What?!!

11:22 PM  
Blogger apositivepessimist said...

ohhh I just read about this through someone else’s blog.

Damn aye.

Hopefully soon you can give them the “up yours” fingers whilst grinning like an ape at how good their decision was for you in the long-run.

11:29 PM  
Blogger Billy said...

Great attitude Fab.

And the Mrs. is right, don't ya just hate it when that happens..?

I'll come along with you and CP when the get even stage begins, cannons are loaded and ready to fire.

Thoughts and wishes are with you my friend, I'm sure you'll succeed whatever you do.

11:32 PM  
Blogger Belinda said...

I adore your Mrs. Of course, I also empathize with her in a BIG way, and you know why. Big hugs to both of you.

11:39 PM  
Blogger merlinprincesse said...

Glad you are going to write! Love to both of you! :)

11:41 PM  
Blogger Lynda said...

I am glad you are going to get back into the swing of things. Mrs Fab wouldn't be a saint if she didn't support you.

Will your first novel have lemurs in the title?

11:43 PM  
Blogger Tenacious T said...

Oh my god, Mr. Fabulous. I'm just reading all this and my heart sinks for you. I can't believe something like this would happen - how trivial!
I certainly know that shock and gnawing pit you have in the stomach right now, as it happened to me recently. Six years as well, and it feels so indescribable to be ushered out like a criminal. For me, at least I had a couple of others to come with me. They had rekeyed the whole joint 15 minutes after we were gone and changed all the passcodes. Nice. I know my situation is different in that I was NOT planning on retiring at that place and had gotten rather sick of it towards then end. But in any event, I'm so, so very sorry. And Mrs. Fab is a smart and wonderful woman. You do need to grieve. Get your senses back. And then, it does get better. It really does. Love to you!

12:55 AM  
Blogger Anne said...

Hey..I read about what happened at Shelli's....Im awfully sorry. Losing a job is horrible.

Looks like you have a ton of people that care about you on here..thats just amazing.

I hope that the writing thing works out for you. You know..this may end up being the best shitty thing that ever happens to you..

12:57 AM  
Blogger Bluepaintred said...

oh Fab. You made me cry. I had to blow my nose in the fluffy tail of a handy lemur.

Im so glad to have you back, but I do have a worry, and because its quite personal I will email you.

would you like to borrw my snotty lemur in the mean time?

welcome home

1:21 AM  
Anonymous Tricia said...

He's Baaaaaaaack! Yeahhhh! I can't wait to find out what you'll have for your fans on Saturday. :)

Grieve and Pity party for as long as you want. We won't hold you to your deadline. But I sure am happy to hear that you're going to try to get back to your regular type of posting too.

Mrs. Fab is the best. I knew she'd be 100% behind you.

Cheers to the start of a new career. This is the turning point, you'll see. Hugs

1:31 AM  
Blogger Pamela J Weatherill said...

Take all the time you need ... then we'll chat. It was really scary to write full time Mr Fab ... (tho I have chickened a little and am doing some letures at the Uni this semester to bring in some $$$s!) ... but apart from having to de-employ our cleaner and drink cheaper champagne ... our lifestyle has gone UP ... as will yours! We'll chat this thru when you are ready in email huh? :-) *hugs*

1:35 AM  
Blogger Catch said...

Writing will be good for you!! And if its something you always wanted to do, this is the time. I wish you luck! Having a supportive wife is a best to both of you.

2:06 AM  
Blogger Malnurtured Snay said...

If you put up a paypal donation button, I pledge a nickel to help you further your career goals.

2:27 AM  
Anonymous BertyMo said...

Again, this shows your (and Mrs. Fab's) strength! Good for you, you're the better person in this!

Will keep on reading your blog as always,

2:27 AM  
Anonymous Kyle Korleski said...

Yeah, the last time I got fired was when I was being accused of schitzophrenia. I told myself that I wanted me back and I asked for a pay raise. Everyone in the room looked at me like I was crazy. And maybe I am. Wait, there's no maybe about it, I am crazy. ^_^

2:52 AM  
Blogger Erin said...

They must have been crazy, that's all I can think. It was obvious through your writing that you were truly devoted to your job, and for them to fire you over a personal blog is absolutely horrible.

I'm glad you're going to make a go of writing - you have quite the voice and I'm sure you'll be a huge literary star. Then I can say I knew you back when you were just Mr. Fab. Hee!

3:02 AM  
Anonymous Shannon said...

You and Mrs. Fab are my heroes!

4:11 AM  
Blogger DutchBitch said...

I think you are great and handling this great and I think Mrs Fab is an ANGEL! Want me to send over a pair of wooden shoes for her as well, so you'll have matching ones?

4:28 AM  
Blogger Pud said...

So glad you are bouncing back! Good luck to you!

4:31 AM  
Blogger Mel said...

Yea you are back!! hey, if you wanna wallow in the pity party thing its ok with us, lord know I have had several on my blog. And I am employed, dammit.

Mrs fab is the best! Of course you know that already.


5:55 AM  
Blogger Maritza said...

Welcome back! I know you'll be fine.

6:06 AM  
Blogger karaoke queen said...

Well, I will buy your book when it comes out ;) I still think you should sue the buggers for firing you illegally though.

6:20 AM  
Blogger MsDemmie said...

I go away for a couple of days and come back to find this .

It's outragreous .......

If there is anything I can do -

Speeechless here to be honest.

It will be good to have you back ......

6:43 AM  
Blogger CanadianSwiss said...

Yaaaaaaay!!!!!! Glad you're feeling a bit better about this and taking time to mourne. Mrs Fab si really AWSOME!

Can't wait to read you again, your Fabulousness.

6:47 AM  
Blogger Annie Drogynous said...

What Nobody said. Heh.

I have the advantage. I know what exit your former company is located. Next time I'm headed down that way, I'll be stopping off there for a few minutes. I will toilet paper all the cars in the parking lot and put stink bombs in the toilets. The Wrath of Blair is upon them.

7:08 AM  
Blogger Lorraine said...

NO ONE gets Mr. Fabulous down for the count, NO ONE!!!!
hugs and kisses :)

7:32 AM  
Blogger kattbanjo said...

YAY! I am so glad! I miss you!

you post about whatever you want. You're human, you can't be expected to be funny all the time.

7:36 AM  
Blogger Motor City Monk said...

In time you will thank your loser employer for pushing you into a career that you're passionate about and one you believe is your true calling.

Good luck!

9:03 AM  
Blogger Spider Walk said...

You have my unwavering support.
I just learned what happened to you this morning when I was reading Lynda's blog.
If I am in shock over it all, I can only imagine what you are feeling.

Your blog is not "hostile" in any way, shape, or form. I think they made a HUGE mistake by letting you go. There is no one else out there that will totally and completely throw their heart and soul into the job like you did.
Their loss, my friend. Their loss.

9:20 AM  
Blogger Sudiegirl said...

I'm glad you're finally starting to heal.

Life can kick all of us in the ass, huh? But still, you're in my good thoughts file.

Keep in mind that you can choose how much you want your former employer can reveal about you - you may want to write a letter to your HR department or find out what rules they already have in place should you start seeking another job. Most companies can't say a whole lot, but they can say a lot with a little.

Write to me - I have a question I want to ask you that I didn't feel comfortable noting in the comments. Thanks!

9:30 AM  
Blogger Finn said...

Writing? Oh Fab, I'm so excited for you! Let me know if I can help you get started.

I love you, too.

9:57 AM  
Blogger Finn said...

Writing? Oh Fab, I'm so excited for you! Let me know if I can help you get started.

When one door closes, another one opens, right?

I love you, too.

9:57 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

Awww man....bummer guy. I hope all works out for the best. I myself can't think of anything you've ever posted that would be considered work offensive. Some very small-minded people exist in the workforce.

10:53 AM  
Blogger michele said...

Writing would be a great option,
good to hear you're going to
get back to your normal routine.

You can't keep a good man down.

10:57 AM  
Blogger Shannon said...

We will be here when you get things in order!! (Hugssss)

10:58 AM  
Blogger maidink said...

Thank chr*st! All this emotional outpouring is brutal.

Sarcasm, dammit!!!!

Wait ... writing what?

*sits and goes blank*

Oh yeah, a book or something. Cool.

Viva El Fabuloso!

(y La Fabuloso, también!)

11:16 AM  
Blogger Trish said...

You have my word that I will buy the first book you have published. :) You ROCK!

11:29 AM  
Blogger Softball Slut said...

F the man!! Came over by way of CP's and Brazen Billy's blogs. Just wanted to say good luck in finding the perfect job for you. You got the chance! Run with it!!

11:29 AM  
Blogger The Lonely Path said...

Hey man, I only heard about this today cause I haven't been actively lately. Now that you have less baggage, its an opportunity to achieve more of what you want in life and less of what others want. All the best man ;)

p.s. if you're going on the crazy adverture of a writer for comics, I'm an amature artist *hint hint*

11:45 AM  
Blogger Lynda said...

Megan is so excited, she said it twice!

FabQuote: (I know I am actually postdating this a tad and posting it a few hours before it is actually Friday but you know how it is. When you are unemployed time doesn't really mean anything LOL)

I work and time means nothing to me. So if I was unemployed...well, I guess all chaos would ensue.

11:54 AM  
Anonymous Sodapop said...

You've got a great attitude about it and I agree with Mrs. Fab, there will be a grieving process since it was such a sudden thing.

Looking forward to your posting about lemurs and sex and whatnot!!!

12:06 PM  
Anonymous Chaos Witch (Marlee) said...

::holds up margerita in toast::

To new beginings and following your heart!

12:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Holy shit! I had to read back a couple posts to catch up Mr Fab! I am so sorry to hear how screwed over you were. I seriously doubt your blog created a hostile work enviorment. And even if it did a warning or a talk should have been given before such a harsh and rash decision. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. It may take awhile to figure it out. But you will see it eventually. And I do not mind if you thro wyourself a pity party on your blog. It is your blog and is here for you 1st!
If you want to laugh a be cheered up a bit, check out my blog today!

12:28 PM  
Blogger Billy said...

Hey Fab Man.

I dedicated part of my Fuck You! Friday post to your dilema and ended with a related story of my own.

Check it out, it may give you something to look forward to.

12:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Believe me, I know EXACTLY what it's like to be given "the shaft". Unfortunately, in Washington, it's an all-too-common occurance I'm afraid. I'm still battling depression over my unfortunate incarceration, and getting kicked off "The Hill", but the booze and the pills get me through. I figure it's best to drown my sorrows and be rendered unconscious than 'remember'. Damn.....

1:01 PM  
Blogger Greta said...

That is just pitiful .....the company should be ashamed of themselves.....are you just going to lay low or cause a stink...i personally would cause a stink

1:10 PM  
Blogger ablondeblogger said...

Fab, have your pity party for as long as you need. I, for one, will attend no matter how long it needs to last!!! (I totally agree with CP's comment about blogging what's in your heart)

And I'm SO excited for you starting a writing career! If you have time and feel up to it, shoot me an email and let me know what kind of writing you're doing. I have a bunch of sites and stuff I can recommend, depending on what area of writing you want to get into.

I say your first project should be a non-fiction book about your experience with these asshats!

2:33 PM  
Blogger Itchy said...

You take all the time you need, man. It's hard being blind sided. The lemurs and sex talk will wait for you.

2:36 PM  
Blogger Cherrypie said...

I've only jusy heard the news. They were fools, but I'm glad you are turning it to your advantage. Every negative has a positive and I like people that can find it.

Fabulous xx

2:45 PM  
Blogger Lynda said...

Fabman, I just want you to know I am a selfish, first born child. I don't want you to take all the time you need, cause I miss you, man! And I hope you still do that post we were talking about. ::wink, wink::

That being said, take all the time you need, but I look forward to you being back on your feet again.

3:00 PM  
Blogger Shell said...

Oh, dude. I'm so sorry. I was out of town when all this went down and just found out.

What a steaming load of shite.

3:23 PM  
Blogger Lilize said...

hey mr. fab., i read about your story at ms. demmie's blog, it's shocking!

i heard in brazil companies have been checking people's orkut before hiring, but this is kind of too much hehe... anyways, as an eternal optimistic that i am, i believe that things always happen for the best :)

4:33 PM  
Blogger Dixie said...

Let me first say that Mrs. Fab is terrific. If there's any time you really need a supportive mate it's when you've been shitcanned without a reasonable excuse. And she's right...take some time to grieve and then keep moving forward. You don't get over stuff like this but you can go through it and get to the other side.

B sends his support to you - he was furious when I told him what happened. You know it's big when Mr. Even Tempered gets fired up.

You're not named Mr. Fabulous for nothing. Don't forget that.

5:36 PM  
Blogger T said...

Holy shit Mr. Fab- I have been ofline for a while and look what freaking happens!!! I am soo sorry. I hope to God you are fighting it. Things like that require a notice, they can't not give you warning that there is a problem first. Had they told you there was a problem then asked you to stop, that would be one thing but wtf! I know it is a charitable organization so you really don't want to sue but at least fight the bastards to get yoru Job back- what you do on your own time is your business, freedom of speach baby. You can't fire someone for what they do at home. Fuck!!!!

You are way too good for that my dear. Damn the man!

7:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dude, sorry for your loss. It's theirs, really. Found out about you via the Cranky Prof. Anyway, the best of luck to you! I'd be more supportive, but I'm expecting a visit from Cap'n Bloodsnatch and I'm pretty damn bitchy right now... ;-)

2:50 PM  
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12:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I say briefly: Best! Useful information. Good job guys.

2:54 PM  

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